Mistress of the Month Interview - February 2012

An interview with Lady Toza Scarlet - Manchester

Are You a lifestyle Mistress or is Your dominance mainly confined to sessions?

I'm a lifestyle Mistress but it's true to say, I also get a lot of my personal kink-needs met by my professional sessions.

Do You find the time to attend any fetish clubs?

Yes, I'm a huge fan of Lash and also the news MARS venue in Manchester. I went to the Luxe Femdom event for the first time in the summer and loved it - Men serving Dominant women all day. Ah - if only life could always be like that!

What makes you unique, what sets you apart from other Mistresses?

I've been told I have a style of my own - a blend of sadism and erotic Domination which gives me an enormous thrill. I've also been told I'm very natural as a Mistress, there's no hint of acting out a part, I'm completely myself during session.

What services do you offer?

I never think of myself as offering a service. Instead, I have activities that I really enjoy: Orgasm control (mmmm!), humiliation, CBT, nipple torture, urethral sounds, needles, corporal punishment, mummification, incarceration and anything else my fertile imagination can dream up.

Do You allow Your clients to discuss the session with You before and after the session, without it encroaching onto their session time?

I insist on an in-depth discussion before every session. I wouldn't dream of doing otherwise - the more information I have about my client, the better our session will be. Likewise, my clients' post-session feedback is invaluable. Without feedback, I wouldn't be able to grow as a Mistress. And no, the pre-session chat and the feedback afterwards doesn't encroach on our session time.

What does your ultimate S&M Scenario involve?

An actual S&M, as opposed to a Ds style scenario - the ultimate for me is inflicting pain in a focused, controlling, hypnotic kind of way - CBT and nipple torture using clamps, needs, wax, electrics although there's a lot of crossover between Ds/fetish and S&M in the way I work. Having said that, I'm always happy with a straight forward 'restraints and flogging' type session. Cheers me up no end.

In your opinion, which part of your role as a Mistress do you excel at?

I don't think of myself as playing a role. Whether it's private play or a professional session, I'm confident and comfortable enough with my own dominance to be myself. As to what I excel at, I'm a good listener, I put a lot of effort into tuning into my clients. Two abilities which I see as key to a great session.

How do You use the feedback your clients give You?

I love getting feedback. As I've already mentioned, feedback helps me to grow as a Mistress and knowing what has worked best for my client also helps me to understand them better. I use their feedback to suggest ways we could take our sessions further should they want to come back for another visit.

In Your opinion, what makes someone a good Professional Mistress?

Authenticity. The best Mistresses are genuinely dominant. They really love what they do and they've found their own unique style of sessioning. It's also essential to take the time to ask the right questions of your client and to take note of the answers. It may sound like a paradox but I make it my job to look after my submissives. I am inflicting pain on them and gaining some access to their secret psyche. I owe it to them to take care of them while I do it.

What makes someone a good submissive?

They must genuinely want to serve their Mistress and to please her. A lot of submissives want things doing 'their way'- topping from the bottom, we call it. That's fine and dandy but it's not true submission. A good submissive will communicate clearly to their Mistress if anything really doesn't feel right and will also be very open in their responses during session.

You have a very wide repertoire of BDSM related interests. Do You have any favourite scenarios?

All the activities mentioned here and on my website are featured because I enjoy them but I think my top favourite must be the Mind Fuck. If I can confuse, disorientate, unnerve, even frighten my submissive, then I have a great time. Throw in controlled masturbation and orgasm into the mix and I'm in heaven.

How much attention do You pay to the health and safety of Your clients?

A lot. It's essential to know any health issues they may have. And I've always made it my business to make sure I can use a piece of equipment properly before inflicting it on anyone.

What information can You tell me about the premises You session in?

I session in fully equipped, very discrete chambers in Manchester (Princess Lucina's premises) and also the Leeds/Bradford Chambers of Deprivation (owned by Mistress Davina). I also have access to well equipped, comfortable chambers in Huddersfield.

 

What do You say to people who complain that pro Dommes charge too much?

That's a very frequently asked question in the world of BDSM. Many people imagine Professional Mistresses strut around in boots for a few hours, getting paid millions of pounds for it. Not the case at all. A Mistress has a lot of outlay, especially when first starting out. We have equipment and clothes to buy - thigh high leather boots don't come cheap you know *wink*. Advertising can also be costly. Then there's dungeon premises to maintain or hire.

If you have your own place, it costs a small fortune to buy all the kit. Add to that, all the time spent replying to emails and building and maintaining a website, getting made up and ready to session. There is a LOT involved, much than people realise.

A good Pro-Domme works bloody hard at taking her clients to new and exciting places. She is worth every penny.

 

Lady Toza Scarlet

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